Emotionally-Focused Therapy
Healing disconnection. Restoring safety. Rebuilding secure, lasting bonds.
When your closest relationships feel strained, everything else starts to feel harder.
Maybe you and your partner are stuck in the same argument on repeat—or you’re barely talking at all. One of you shuts down, the other gets louder. You both feel hurt, unseen, and unsure how to reach each other.
Or maybe, as a parent, you’re watching your child or teen pull away. You try to stay patient, but conversations turn tense or distant. You want to feel close again—but everything you say seems to push them further.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or heartbroken by the state of your relationship, you’re not alone—and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help.
EFT is a powerful, evidence-based therapy rooted in attachment theory, which understands that we all need emotional safety and connection to thrive. When those bonds feel threatened—whether in a romantic relationship, parent-child dynamic, or family system—our nervous systems react. We might shut down, become reactive, withdraw, or reach out in ways that push others away.
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EFT helps uncover the emotions and needs beneath those reactions. Instead of staying stuck in surface-level conflict, we slow down, identify the cycle that’s keeping you disconnected, and create new, emotionally responsive ways of relating.
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The goal isn’t just to “communicate better”—it’s to rebuild the emotional bond that helps each person feel safe, valued, and loved.
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Identify and change negative patterns of interaction
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Rebuild trust after emotional disconnection or rupture
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Reduce conflict and increase emotional safety
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Deepen intimacy and emotional closeness
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Help teens and parents reconnect after attachment disruptions
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Create space for each person’s needs, emotions, and voice
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Strengthen the foundation for long-term, secure connection
In EFT for couples, we focus on the emotional dynamics beneath your arguments.
Instead of asking "Who's right?" we explore "What's really happening underneath?"
Often, we find that each partner is protecting a deeper fear:
“I don’t know if you really care about me.”
“I’m scared you’ll leave.”
“I don’t know how to reach you anymore.”
Together, we work to reshape those moments into emotionally safe experiences, where vulnerability is met with support—not defensiveness. As trust rebuilds, so does the connection you’re both longing for.
EFT for families helps create a space where everyone’s voice matters. Whether it’s a child who feels misunderstood, a teen withdrawing into silence, or parents stuck in fear or frustration—we’ll work together to repair the emotional bonds that create safety, respect, and belonging at home.
This work can be especially powerful for families healing from generational patterns of emotional unavailability, where feelings weren’t talked about, and connection didn’t feel safe. EFT helps break those cycles so that new patterns—built on empathy, responsiveness, and understanding—can take root.
EFT is not just emotional—it’s physiological. When emotional safety breaks down, the nervous system activates old patterns of protection: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. In therapy, I help you notice these responses with compassion and learn to regulate them in real time. When the nervous system begins to settle, new conversations, closeness, and choices become possible.
EFT may be a good fit if:
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You feel stuck in the same arguments with your partner or family
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One or more of you feels emotionally shut down, reactive, or unheard
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You grew up in a family where emotions were avoided, dismissed, or overwhelming
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You want more closeness, but don't know how to get there without conflict
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You’ve tried to “communicate better,” but still feel disconnected
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You want to heal emotional wounds and create more secure, lasting connection
You don’t have to keep living in disconnection or emotional silence.
Whether you’re a couple longing to find each other again or a family ready to repair and rebuild, EFT offers a path forward—one rooted in safety, empathy, and emotional security.
Reach out today to begin your journey toward deeper connection.