Heal the past. Calm your body. Reclaim your sense of self.
You’ve tried to move on, but the past still lives in your body.
Maybe it shows up as anxiety that doesn’t make sense, emotional shutdowns in relationships, or a constant fear that you’re not good enough. You might find yourself reacting to things that feel small—but they trigger something much deeper. That’s not weakness. It’s your nervous system trying to protect you from what it hasn’t had the chance to fully process.
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful, evidence-based therapy that helps you heal the emotional impact of painful or traumatic experiences—so they no longer hold power over your present.
EMDR helps your brain and body reprocess memories that were overwhelming at the time they happened—memories that never got fully resolved, especially those from emotionally unavailable or neglectful caregiving, attachment wounds, or relational trauma. You don’t need to share every detail of what happened. Instead, we work with what’s stored in your nervous system and gently help it move toward healing.
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Using bilateral stimulation (such as eye movements, tapping, or auditory tones), EMDR helps unlock the brain’s natural ability to process and release trauma—so you can move forward without carrying the same emotional weight.
EMDR is a structured, phase-based therapy. Here's what that looks like:
1. History Taking:
We explore what you’re struggling with, identify key themes or experiences, and determine whether EMDR is a good fit for your goals.
2. Preparation:
We create safety by developing tools for emotional regulation, grounding, and resourcing. You’ll learn how to stay present and feel supported through the process.
3. Assessment:
We identify the specific memories or experiences that feel “stuck,” and the beliefs, feelings, and body sensations attached to them.
4. Desensitization:
Using bilateral stimulation, we begin reprocessing. You stay connected to the memory while your brain starts forming new, adaptive connections—reducing the emotional charge.
5. Installation:
We strengthen new, empowering beliefs to replace outdated ones (like “I’m not enough” or “I have to earn love”).
6. Body Scan:
We check in with your body to notice and release any remaining tension or distress.
7. Closure:
Each session ends with grounding and resourcing to ensure you leave feeling stable and safe.
8. Reevaluation:
We review progress, check for unresolved material, and ensure lasting integration.
In our work together, I often integrate Internal Family Systems (IFS) into the EMDR process. IFS helps us get to know the “parts” of you that show up—like the anxious part, the perfectionist, the part that shuts down, or the younger part that still feels scared or not good enough.
By combining IFS with EMDR, we can:
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Make sure each part feels safe and ready before reprocessing
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Gently work with protectors (like people-pleasing or emotional numbness)
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Help younger parts release shame, fear, or unmet needs
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Build a stronger, more compassionate connection to your Self
This integration creates a gentler, more empowering healing process—especially for those who grew up in emotionally unavailable environments and developed adaptive strategies to survive.
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Heal from emotionally unavailable or neglectful caregiving
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Process trauma without having to relive it
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Calm a chronically dysregulated nervous system
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Reduce anxiety, shame, and emotional overwhelm
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Feel less triggered or reactive in relationships
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Strengthen self-worth, emotional resilience, and internal safety
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You don’t need to have a single defining trauma to benefit from EMDR. Many of my clients carry the emotional residue of chronic relational wounds—like being ignored, emotionally dismissed, or constantly feeling not good enough. If you're wondering whether EMDR might be the right fit, ask yourself:
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Do you often feel triggered in ways that seem bigger than the situation?
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Have you tried talk therapy but still feel stuck in the same patterns?
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Do you carry anxiety, shame, or self-doubt that feels hard to shake?
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Do you feel emotionally reactive or shut down in relationships?
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Were your emotional needs often overlooked or minimized growing up?
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Do you feel like your body “remembers” things, even if your mind has moved on?
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Are you tired of over-functioning, people-pleasing, or always trying to “be enough”?
If you answered yes to any of these, EMDR—especially when paired with an attachment and parts-based approach—can help you finally access the deeper layers of healing your nervous system and inner world have been craving.
You don’t have to keep reliving the past through anxiety, self-doubt, or disconnection. EMDR—especially when combined with IFS—can help you release what no longer serves you and step into a life that feels grounded, clear, and connected.
Reach out today to schedule a consultation and begin your healing journey.