Secure Attachment

Secure attachment isn’t about getting relationships right all the time. It can look like feeling comfortable with closeness and independence, communicating your needs, navigating conflict, and finding your way back after disconnection. Explore insights for understanding and building greater security in your relationships.

Why Is It So Hard To Let Someone Get Close?

Maybe you’ve spent some time learning about attachment styles and, for the most part, secure attachment feels like it fits. You like being close to your partner. You can enjoy time apart without immediately worrying about the relationship. You can talk about what you need, work through conflict, and trust that one difficult moment doesn’t mean everything is falling apart. But then there are these other moments. Your partner asks what’s wrong, and you say, “I’m fine,” even tho

Lisa Stoll

Oct 18 min read

What Is Secure Attachment and Why Should I Strive for It?

If you’ve been diving into attachment styles, you’re either an attachment nerd like me, or your relationships don’t quite feel the way you want them to. You might feel anxious or nervous when your partner goes quiet. You might have a hard time when your partner shares a concern or brings up an issue, worrying that you’re missing the mark again. You might even resonate with both of those experiences. Your relationships can feel really good when things are good, but really disc

Lisa Stoll

Sep 164 min read