If you’ve been diving into attachment styles, you’re either an attachment nerd like me, or your relationships don’t quite feel the way you want them to. You might feel anxious or nervous when your partner goes quiet. You might have a hard time when your partner shares a concern or brings up an issue, worrying that you’re missing the mark again. You might even resonate with both of those experiences. Your relationships can feel really good when things are good, but really disc

Your partner tells you they aren't upset. They reassure you that nothing has changed. They love you. Everything between you is okay. And you believe them. You might even feel your body settle a little. Then something happens. Their text is shorter than usual. They seem distracted. Their tone sounds different. And suddenly the reassurance you received earlier doesn't feel quite as convincing anymore. Are they sure they're not upset? Did something change? Should I ask again? If

Your partner seems quieter than usual. Their text is shorter. Their tone sounds different. Maybe they walked into the room and something about their energy just feels off. They tell you they’re fine, but you’re not convinced. So your mind starts working. Did I do something? Was it what I said earlier? Are they annoyed with me? Should I ask again? Am I overthinking this? Before long, you’re replaying conversations, paying attention to every change in their behavior, or trying